Privacy-safe by design
Remember the date without giving it to us.
Use the calculator privately, add a neutral reminder to your own calendar, and come back when the date approaches. Dear Milestone never receives the date.
An account-based My Milestones list is in private testing and is not open to the public. We will not store another adult’s milestone without their own consent.
How it works
Calculate privately
Enter the start date on our calculator. It is computed on your device and never sent to us or added to the web address.
Add a neutral reminder
Tap Remember this date to add an event called “Important date” to your calendar, with reminders 14 days and 1 day before. The file holds only that date and a generic title. No name, no reason, no details.
Come back when it’s near
The reminder links back to the gift finder. Answer four questions and choose something thoughtful.
Common questions
Do you store the date?
No. The calculator runs on your device and the calendar file is created there. We do not receive, log, or save it.
Why don’t you save it for me?
A sobriety date belongs to the person living it. We will only keep a milestone in an account when that person has agreed. Until then, your own calendar is the safest place for it.
Will they be notified?
No. Nothing on this site contacts the person you are celebrating.